The Three Changes That Gave Me My Evenings Back
In my previous blog I confessed my Game-of-Thrones-in-10-weeks shame. Here’s what actually worked to take my evenings back.
Three gentle(ish) hacks I still use:
- Hack It with Apps (Meta, Right?) Grab a free productivity tool like Forest or Focus Keeper to set “indulge limits.” It’s like using your phone to babysit your phone—ironic, but genius. (Pro tip once your screen is locked: Paint your toenails a ridiculous colour no one will see. Or eat ice cream straight from the tub on the couch. No bowl, no guilt.)
- Built-In Boundaries for the Win Dive into your phone’s Screen Time settings and cap social media or streaming at 30-60 minutes a day. (If you’re already doing this for the kids, high-five! You’re halfway there. Now apply it to yourself, no eye-rolls.) Studies back this: Limits cut mental health dips by fostering real-life recharge.
- Fill the Void with Joy, Not Pixels Long-term gold: Brainstorm hobbies that actually light you up. (For me, the magic happened when I finally bought a decent pair of running shoes and stepped outside. Turns out the best therapy is free, comes with fresh air, and doesn’t need subtitles.) This is where coaching shines. We’ll stack habits, set tiny goals, and rediscover the things that make you feel alive in your own skin. No more “filling” time; let’s start living it.
Bonus Round: Getting the Kids Off Screens Too (Very Much Still in Progress)
Those overnights aren’t just quiet for us — they’re quiet for the kids too. Research shows children in separating families already carry extra emotional weight, and excess screens (often up 1–3 hours a day in disrupted homes) can amplify anxiety, tantrums, sleep trouble, and that “nobody gets me” feeling. The fix doesn’t have to be perfect: co-view one show together, swap one episode for a walk, or drop all devices in a basket at 8 p.m. In coaching we make these swaps gentle and guilt-free for everyone.
Your Turn Tonight: One Tiny Unplug You Can Try
If this hits home or if you’re ready to swap binge regrets for bedtime breakthroughs, grab my free 5-Minute Screen Reset guide first. It’s the exact routine that’s already giving me calmer evenings.
After that, if you’re ready to stop just getting through the days and start building a life that feels like home again, book a free 30-minute clarity call with me. We’ll map out whatever’s heaviest right now: screens that numb the loneliness, co-parenting battles, the guilt of putting yourself first, figuring out dating, or simply not recognizing the woman in the mirror, and create a plan that fits your real life, not some perfect Instagram version.
You’ve survived the storm; now let’s make the calm count. What’s one tiny unplug you’re trying this week?
References:
- Global Adult Screen Time Averages: Backlinko Screen Time Statistics (2024) – https://backlinko.com/screen-time-statistics
- COVID Screen Time Spikes: JAMA Pediatrics Cohort Study (2023) – https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC9932850/
- Screens & Mental Health in Transitions: PMC Review on Excessive Screen Time Hazards (2024) – https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC10852174/
- Divorce & Child Mental Health Risks: World Psychiatry Review on Parental Divorce (2018, updated 2024) – https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC6313686/
- Screens in Divorcing Families & Kids’ Emotions: Family Factors & Screen Time During COVID (2022, relevant to transitions) – https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC8731198/
- Child Screen Time & Development Impacts: Effects of Excessive Screen Time on Child Development (2023) – https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC10353947/
- 2025 Kids’ Screen Time Stats & Parental Guilt: Lurie Children’s Survey (2025) – https://www.luriechildrens.org/en/blog/screen-time-2025/
Post written by Beverly Zhai an Associate Certified Coach at her practice Thrive Beyond Midlife Coaching.
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